Why It’s Time to Talk
Men’s mental health has been overlooked for too long. Across the UK, thousands of men struggle daily with anxiety, depression, and emotional distress — often without telling anyone.
According to the Office for National Statistics (ONS), three in four suicides in the UK are by men, and suicide remains the leading cause of death for men under 50. (ONS – Suicides in England and Wales)
Men are often taught to “man up,” “stay strong,” or keep emotions bottled inside. But staying silent doesn’t make things better — it just makes the struggle lonelier.
Understanding the Signs
Poor mental health can show up in many ways, not just sadness or tears. For men, signs often include:
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Increased anger, irritability, or frustration
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Withdrawal from family, friends, or hobbies
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Risk-taking behaviour or heavy drinking
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Problems sleeping or loss of motivation
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Feeling trapped, hopeless, or without purpose
Recognising these signs early can be the difference between coping and crisis.
Why Men Often Don’t Ask for Help
Many men find it difficult to reach out. A Mind UK study found that only 36% of NHS referrals for talking therapies are men, even though mental health problems affect both genders equally. (Mind – Men and mental health)
This reluctance is often tied to fear of judgment, embarrassment, or believing that admitting struggles is a sign of weakness. But asking for help is one of the strongest things a person can do.
Where to Find Support
If you’re struggling with your mental health, or worried about someone else, confidential help is available:
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CALM (Campaign Against Living Miserably): 0800 58 58 58 (5pm–midnight, 365 days) | thecalmzone.net
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Mind: 0300 123 3393 | Text: 86463 | mind.org.uk
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Samaritans: 116 123 (24/7) | samaritans.org
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Shout: Text 85258 anytime | giveusashout.org
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Men’s Health Forum: menshealthforum.org.uk — advice, tools, and resources specifically for men
These services also provide guidance for men dealing with fathers’ rights, family court, and child support stress, connecting emotional wellbeing with practical support.
A Message to Anyone Struggling
You don’t need to hit rock bottom to ask for help. You don’t have to face it alone.
Every man deserves to be heard, understood, and supported — and there are people ready to listen when you’re ready to talk.
Your mental health matters. Your story matters. You matter.